Messiah wrote:I think where the disconnect is coming from is look at where everyone who is involved in this is from. Hanley is from Ireland, Viazon is from England, Circled Square lives in Canada. We have different experiences. Now is Circled Square being a little short-sighted here? Yeah, probably so, and I mean that with no offense. But if I was just arguing with another American, I would agree with what he is saying. To make it seem like the majority of gay people live in fear is kind of an exaggeration. Except it is true, just it doesn't apply to where we live.
I'm trying to word it the best I can. Basically what I'm saying is, both sides are right here. I think what CS is saying is being taken out of context a tad, but he isn't looking at the bigger picture either. There are a lot of places in the world where homosexuality is 100% forbidden. That has to be taken into account to, especially when we have so many people on this site from so many different places in the world.
Hope I explained that well.
I don't think my position is informed all that much by my country. There are obviously countries where discrimination against homosexuals is much more severe, but I don't think there's a huge difference between America and Ireland.
But I don't think there's a country on earth where being gay isn't a disadvantage. We have it better than many countries, but in Ireland and much of the United States gay couples can't get married. They have more trouble adopting. Even when they can do these things, many people don't respect their right to be spouses or parents.
Their suicide rates are higher. They're more likely to be bullied. If they're religious, their church may not accept them. If their families are religious, there will be tension. They're less represented in government. They're less represented in the media.
There is no societal advantage to being gay. Anywhere. It's not a choice. Though even if it were, it would be as valid as any other one.