K. Here goes, I'm finally drunk enough.
My girlfriend and I both came from basically the same area, but never met each other. Then, we both went to school in a far distant land (if, by far distant land you mean 200 miles away, you mean barely a blip on a map. Shown here:
Compared to here:
And that's where we met, far away from home. Now, we met and we were together for a year and a half. I got a job, graduated from school and moved into an apartment. I asked her to move in with me. She really wanted to, but due to personal and religious pressure from her family, moved back home instead. She is now living here.
As compared to where I am, which is here:
She still contacts me daily, and we're still what you'd call "together".
Now, due to all my bills of paying the rent and the car payment and my full-time job, I really haven't been realistically able to make the journey down to her very often. Approximately 3 times in the last year to be exact. When she moved back, her parents promised they'd help us see each other, but haven't delivered on that (we've already had our talks about that).
So I guess what I want out of you guys is just, how would you approach this? I mean, a heavily Catholic family (at least in words and image alone, they don't exactly live up to all of the principles of their own religion), who don't want us to live together, but we barely get to see each other. She, in her heart of hearts, feels like she has made a mistake moving back there, and wishes she had moved in with me instead, but doesn't have the resources or frankly, the guts to abandon her parents and come to be with me.
Meanwhile, I'm up here, I have a job I really love and that I can't leave for anything, so I'm kinda stuck in this area, and I'm kinda scared if she did move in with me, would she really be committed? Cuz that's what I really want, a commitment. She decided to go back home and I'd be kinda afraid she'd do it again. But I really do love her and I want to be with her.
Anyway, if I ranted too long, glorious free speech says you can move onto the next topic. I'm just trying to see if there's ANYTHING I'm missing here. If anyone has any advice, I would greatly appreciate it. Maybe I should be more patient and stop being so hard on everyone? Or maybe I need to break up with her and look elsewhere?