Porn in relationships

[Matteo]

Some women are cool with the fact that their partner watches porn. Others are not. What do you think about this? Personally, I know some girls that have absolutely no problem with porn, just as long as you watch it in moderation and don't project your fantasies onto others. Hell, they even watch it themselves from time to time. Some others I know think it is like a "form of cheating". The fact you're basically getting pleasure from looking at another women is wrong, even if it is virtual. They also hate the fact that guys watch stuff where women are getting degraded or exploited. I agree some porn treats females wrongly, but the industry has become much more regulated over the last few years and there are many "legitimate" companies that treat pornography like any other profession.

What do you think of this? Should more women be accepting of porn? I mean, I was with this girl once and she completely condemned it, even though she found personal ways of pleasuring herself. It made no sense and was hypocritical. It is not like guys watch porn for interest, entertainment or because they are sexually attracted to a women - they just do it to get off... Call it a 'platform of content' if you will, much like a vibrator or any other sex toy does for a female.

Thoughts?


And yes, Don Jon is a source of inspiration for this thread.

[Daz]

I watch it for the clever plots and top notch acting...

[Westcoastvibes]

Its a double standard.
Most younger women are against their partners watching porn, I think it has to do with them being sexually uncomfortable with themselves or a lack of sexual experience. They assume that because you watch porn you automatically think of the porn girls when bedroom activities happen instead of them. But its perfectly fine for them to read smut book's all day long, shit that puts average porn flicks to shame. Its okay because they are "reading", as if that makes it any different. If it gets them wet then its porn

So to end rant and answer topic question, yes they should be more understanding about porn.

[Locke]

Attracted to another woman? Huh? Wait, does porn show a woman's face?

.. I've never noticed.

[War Daddy]

They also have to be ready to do whatever their partner has seen

[Matteo]

Attracted to another woman? Huh? Wait, does porn show a woman's face?

.. I've never noticed.

The thought of getting off over another woman is why some females oppose porn - they think it is a "form of cheating". At least that's what I have been told. I don't think anyone is actually in love or sexually attracted to somebody in a porn video. Yes, they are (mostly) hot and have nice bodies and all. But it's not anything beyond that.

[SKS]

If you think watching porn is "cheating"...then

Porn is fantasy. If your partner isn't giving you any then why not masturbate with some visual aid? You're not fucking anyone else, you're fucking yourself, quite literally.

[Locke]

Attracted to another woman? Huh? Wait, does porn show a woman's face?

.. I've never noticed.

The thought of getting off over another woman is why some females oppose porn - they think it is a "form of cheating". At least that's what I have been told. I don't think anyone is actually in love or sexually attracted to somebody in a porn video. Yes, they are (mostly) hot and have nice bodies and all. But it's not anything beyond that.

Clearly my sarcasm was lost on you. I was saying, more or less, that I don't even pay attention to what a woman looks like in porn. It's all about the TNA, emotions need not apply.

[Everlong]

I can understand why people would maybe be upset about porn in relationships, but the reality is that people in relationships are going to masturbate, and they're going to use visual aid to do it. So it's just unrealistic to expect that it's not going to happen.

The only way it should really be a problem is if it's affecting your sexual drive, and therefore your relationship. Then the other person absolutely has a right to be upset about it.

[Matteo]

If you think watching porn is "cheating"...then

Porn is fantasy. If your partner isn't giving you any then why not masturbate with some visual aid? You're not fucking anyone else, you're fucking yourself, quite literally.

Precisely. I really don't get the "cheating" argument. And it's not always about 'getting any', either. Plenty of guys have a totally normal sex life but still watch porn from time to time.

Attracted to another woman? Huh? Wait, does porn show a woman's face?

.. I've never noticed.

The thought of getting off over another woman is why some females oppose porn - they think it is a "form of cheating". At least that's what I have been told. I don't think anyone is actually in love or sexually attracted to somebody in a porn video. Yes, they are (mostly) hot and have nice bodies and all. But it's not anything beyond that.

Clearly my sarcasm was lost on you. I was saying, more or less, that I don't even pay attention to what a woman looks like in porn. It's all about the TNA, emotions need not apply.

I've never been good at detecting sarcasm online. But yeah, I agree.

[Westcoastvibes]

There have been studies and surveys done that show a large majority of men that watch porn fantasize about their partner while watching the porn and even use the porn as a backdrop for those bathroom quickies. Porn set and plot but themselves and partner instead of cock hungry nympho and freakishly large penis

[Matteo]

There have been studies and surveys done that show a large majority of men that watch porn fantasize about their partner while watching the porn and even use the porn as a backdrop for those bathroom quickies. Porn set and plot but themselves and partner instead of cock hungry nympho and freakishly large penis

Yeah, I've heard similar things. It's pretty accurate, too.

[Kein]

I believe most women view porn as a way of cheating because I THINK a lot of women can think and visualize themselves what they want a man to do to them and emotionally it stimulates them to be able to masturbate without having to see it on the screen. The fact a man may use a video to help them get off, to them, may seem like they are looking and visualizing doing the deed to another woman. Which in that sense I can... See why they feel that way, doesn't make it right, but I can at least understand their point of view. That's how I always thought it was anyways.

But yea, it doesn't help when a guy might see a certain position or technique or action and want to replicate it with their woman. Some girls see that as a direct comparison of them to the porn someone has watched. (on the other hand some girls are okay with new ideas and make find new things they like so find those girls:P )

My ex was opposed to porn, didn't like the idea of it at all, and said she felt sorry for the people who did it as a profession. She felt it was a degrading profession to be in, and there was no pride in doing something like porn. Again, this is me discussing and nitpicking me ex's brain, it does not generalize all women, and I could even be wrong in my deductions.

Some woman love porn though, and that's cool. Like any guy or girl I say to each their own.

[Twister]

I'm not a fan, I don't watch it myself nor do I read erotic novels. A couple of years ago I hated the idea of my man watching it, and we had many a discussion/argument about it. Part of it I will admit is/was down to my own insecurities, but an even bigger part of it was the fact he was using it instead of being intimate with me, which is not okay. I'd literally offer it on a plate and he'd decline because he'd already sorted himself out which of course made me feel fantastic. It got to the point where it almost broke out relationship. Nowadays, whilst I still don't particularly like the idea of my OH watching it, I know he most likely still does, just not to the extent that he used to. And if he's discreet about it, doesn't do it at inappropriate times i.e when I need help with the baby or something and it doesn't interfere with our time then I pick my battles.

[Westcoastvibes]

^ what kind of man chooses porn over the real thing? No offense intended just wondering what his motivation would be and why pass up the real deal to watch the same thing on a screen.

[PorkChop]

^ what kind of man chooses porn over the real thing? No offense intended just wondering what his motivation would be and why pass up the real deal to watch the same thing on a screen.

If I had to knock one out over Sasha Grey or bang Honey Boo Boo's mum, I'd choose the first option every time.

[Twister]

^ what kind of man chooses porn over the real thing? No offense intended just wondering what his motivation would be and why pass up the real deal to watch the same thing on a screen.

Tbh I don't really know, i've asked him the same thing tonnes of times. The only thing I can put it down to is that he was single for a long time before I came along and so that's all he knew and was used to. Of course to me it just felt like I wasn't good enough but he assured me that wasn't the case, he even said he would get help for it but luckily it never went that far and we managed to work through it.

Porkchop, I'm not perfect but I don't look anything like Honey boo-boo's mum lol

[Locke]

^ what kind of man chooses porn over the real thing? No offense intended just wondering what his motivation would be and why pass up the real deal to watch the same thing on a screen.

If I had to knock one out over Sasha Grey or bang Honey Boo Boo's mum, I'd choose the first option every time.

Dafuq you sayin'..? That Twister is Honey Boo Boo's mom?

If my wife could even keep up with HALF the times I ever wanted to be "intimate," I'd never have to even know who "Sasha Grey" is without Google. (Most) Women just can't keep up with a man's drive. I mean, let's be honest, a guy can be ready 15 minutes after a climax to go again, some don't need that long. It's primal instinct. Women like to be romanced and wined and dined, even when married, and often like to use it as a tool or weapon if they have to. Luckily mine doesn't do that, but I can't count many among my friends that can say the same thing as I can in that regard. Women know guys want it all the time, and women are cunning.

[PorkChop]

^ what kind of man chooses porn over the real thing? No offense intended just wondering what his motivation would be and why pass up the real deal to watch the same thing on a screen.

If I had to knock one out over Sasha Grey or bang Honey Boo Boo's mum, I'd choose the first option every time.

Dafuq you sayin'..? That Twister is Honey Boo Boo's mom?

No haha. I was saying that if Honey Boo Boo's mum offered me sex, I'd rather turn it down and just watch porn instead.

Twister is the forum milf, I would never speak bad of her.

[Ace]

My girlfriend isn't bothered by me watching porn or even masturbating to it. I don't worry about her doing the same. We're very ok about because like many of you have said it's fantasy & that's where it'll stay. We've even watched porn before we have sex to get deeper into the mood.

I guess I'm just saying that it all depends on the 2 people that are in the relationship.

My girlfriend did get pissed off at my sig tho ⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩