Am I in love? I think I might be in love.

[Hanley!]

Especially if she knew how you felt, if she didn't feel the same she was selfish by not distancing herself and continuing to hurt you.

That's not how these things should ever work. If she was deliberately leading him on then sure, that's selfish. But that pretty clearly was not the case here. She had a boyfriend and therefore obviously wasn't available to hook up with anyone else. She could reasonably presume that any male friends she had were just friends, and even if she thought one of them was crushing on her, why should it be her responsibility to end the friendship? Just because the guy can't keep his hormones under control.

No offense meant, Viazon. I don't think you've done anything wrong, it's just that I don't believe that she has either. I hope everything works out okay anyway. It seems like this might be for the best in terms of helping you to move on.

[Chewy]

Hang on she's Polish?

Why don't you just buy one just like her off the internet?

It wouldn't be her.

They're all the same. Pretty but slightly mad and smell of cabbage.

[Viazon]

Especially if she knew how you felt, if she didn't feel the same she was selfish by not distancing herself and continuing to hurt you.

That's not how these things should ever work. If she was deliberately leading him on then sure, that's selfish. But that pretty clearly was not the case here. She had a boyfriend and therefore obviously wasn't available to hook up with anyone else. She could reasonably presume that any male friends she had were just friends, and even if she thought one of them was crushing on her, why should it be her responsibility to end the friendship? Just because the guy can't keep his hormones under control.

No offense meant, Viazon. I don't think you've done anything wrong, it's just that I don't believe that she has either. I hope everything works out okay anyway. It seems like this might be for the best in terms of helping you to move on.

I don't think she has done anything wrong either. Whether or not she knows I like her, I have never let her known it myself. And I have never like she was leading me on. She has never tried to be anything more than a friend to me.

[Locke]

Especially if she knew how you felt, if she didn't feel the same she was selfish by not distancing herself and continuing to hurt you.

That's not how these things should ever work. If she was deliberately leading him on then sure, that's selfish. But that pretty clearly was not the case here. She had a boyfriend and therefore obviously wasn't available to hook up with anyone else. She could reasonably presume that any male friends she had were just friends, and even if she thought one of them was crushing on her, why should it be her responsibility to end the friendship? Just because the guy can't keep his hormones under control.

Because it sounds to me from this thread she was flirty as fuck-all still with Viazon and that's just wrong.

If my gal sat around texting some other dude all the time I wouldn't like it. Be as "mature" about it as you like. Just no for me.

[CavingSiberian]

Especially if she knew how you felt, if she didn't feel the same she was selfish by not distancing herself and continuing to hurt you.

That's not how these things should ever work. If she was deliberately leading him on then sure, that's selfish. But that pretty clearly was not the case here. She had a boyfriend and therefore obviously wasn't available to hook up with anyone else. She could reasonably presume that any male friends she had were just friends, and even if she thought one of them was crushing on her, why should it be her responsibility to end the friendship? Just because the guy can't keep his hormones under control.

Because it sounds to me from this thread she was flirty as fuck-all still with Viazon and that's just wrong.

If my gal sat around texting some other dude all the time I wouldn't like it. Be as "mature" about it as you like. Just no for me.

I agree!

If she knows how he feels and continues to flirt it feels like she is keeping him as an option. You know, just in case something goes wrong with the first one. I've been treated like that, both from the side of the friend of someone in a relationship and on the side where I was the girlfriend and he was chatting up a LOT of girls... Seriously... I'm sure it works that way with some girls too. She likes the attention and encourages it, doesn't want to do anything to lose it but still lets you know she has a boyfriend because that means she TECHNICALLY isn't crossing any boundaries. Honestly, depending on the conversation, it could be a form of emotional infidelity.

[Viazon]

She has never really flirted with me though. She has always just treated me as a friend.

[Hanley!]

Yeah, this girl is basically just guilty of being friendly to a co-worker. I think we can put the pitchforks away.

[Chewy]

Yeah, this girl is basically just guilty of being friendly to a co-worker. I think we can put the pitchforks away.

And we can all agree that Viazon would likely fall in love with a curly wurly if it said hello to him.

[Viazon]

So in 7 days, this girl will be gone. She has her last day off work on Thursday. A bunch of us went out for a meal and some drinks last night as sort of a farewell party for her. Was good to actually hang out with her outside of work in social environment. Gonna suck when she goes but at least if she his out of sight, then I can get past her. Was a decent night out. Didn't get too drunk, which is a good thing. I was very careful with that. When I get too drunk, I get too honest and I didn't blurt out my feelings towards her or say something stupid.

So that's the end of this story. Life goes on now.

Also, in case any of you were wondering what this girl looks like, have a gander. Plus, I feel this is a nice picture and just wanna share it! :)

Spoiler:

[Everlong]

Now that the story has officially ended, I think this has Pub Classics written all over it.

[Camstud]

Now that the story has officially ended, I think this has Pub Classics written all over it.

What a beautiful story it was.

[Locke]

I think Viazon's been a good enough sport about all of it, do we need to make this stuff permanent?

[Camstud]

I think Viazon's been a good enough sport about all of it, do we need to make this stuff permanent?

I don't think Vince has any problem with this. If he does I'm sure he'll say bit as far as I can tell everyone has just enjoyed the thread and I for one think it should definitely be a classic.

[Viazon]

If people truly think this should be a classic because it really is a classic thread then I am fine with it.

However, I hope it's not just because you guys think it was funny that I basically made myself look like an idiot here. I know some of you guys gave me a hard time in this thread and busted my balls a bit, and I'm with that. It's what we do here and I can take it. I don't mind you guys having a bit of fun at my expense. But just know that this whole ordeal has not been fun for me.

As I said before, you guys may think I am just being over emotional and sensitive about this situation but I do have very strong feelings for this girl. In a way I am glad she is leaving because it really has been torture seeing her every day and not being able to tell her how I feel. And it has really does really get to me when I even see her talking to other guys at work. Now I don't have to go through all that. I'm sure we will still keep in contact through Facebook or what have you but with her out of my life, I can move on.

So if you think this deserves to be in the classic section because it caused a lot of discussion and will go down in history as a great thread, then go for it. I just hope it isn't because you all thought I was I just acting like a big cry baby and you had fun giving me a hard time.

[Everlong]

I was like 95% kidding, haha.

[Kein]

I like you Viazon, and I am glad you see her being gone is a good thing even though you originally were really bummed out about it. Moving on is a big part of these things too. Honestly I am less interested in this girl now and more about the others you have met, your life is way more exciting than mine!

[Twister]

Ahh Viazon, you've taken this thread really well in my opinion, props to you. I don't think you made yourself look like an idiot, you can't help how you feel! I bet it's a relief in a way knowing that this girl will soon be moving away and you will then be able to move on properly.

[Locke]

Viazon, you're a fuckin' stand up dude.

[Camstud]

If people truly think this should be a classic because it really is a classic thread then I am fine with it.

However, I hope it's not just because you guys think it was funny that I basically made myself look like an idiot here. I know some of you guys gave me a hard time in this thread and busted my balls a bit, and I'm with that. It's what we do here and I can take it. I don't mind you guys having a bit of fun at my expense. But just know that this whole ordeal has not been fun for me.

As I said before, you guys may think I am just being over emotional and sensitive about this situation but I do have very strong feelings for this girl. In a way I am glad she is leaving because it really has been torture seeing her every day and not being able to tell her how I feel. And it has really does really get to me when I even see her talking to other guys at work. Now I don't have to go through all that. I'm sure we will still keep in contact through Facebook or what have you but with her out of my life, I can move on.

So if you think this deserves to be in the classic section because it caused a lot of discussion and will go down in history as a great thread, then go for it. I just hope it isn't because you all thought I was I just acting like a big cry baby and you had fun giving me a hard time.

We give you a lot of stick cos we know you can take it. It's like how you give your best friend loads of shit because you have a good understanding with them. Don't think for a minute we were laughing at you, or think you're pathetic or whatever. Not the case at all mate. This thread has just been the source of many great jokes from everyone, yourself included!

[Viazon]

I was like 95% kidding, haha.

I didn't really think about it anyway until people starting bringing up what I might think about it! I don't give a shit either way.